“Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun”. – Alan Watts
Feeling fear happens for me when I am looking at my future or past from a negative frame of reference. The way I am looking at my life, the possibilities and my life’s stories, comes from another place. A place that can either be shrouded in fear, and negativity, or filled with joy, and wonder. Hence, I am learning to ask myself, am I seeing the entire reality? Do I see the reality in all its miraculous forces? Or, a small insignificant moment that seems to be a problem?
Furthermore, am I aware that I am choosing a frame of reference? Am I aware that there are multiple frames of reference? Is it possible there are other realities I have yet to discover, or to create? Imagine yourself suspended above your body, able to see other frames of reference. How could another frame of reference change your mood? Change the outcome of your day or even influence your future and past? Below, I am going to share three of my frames of reference for being late in the morning. Therefore, representing multiple realities at once. To be clear, I am writing about our first five senses. I am not including a sixth sense or beyond. Another sense would naturally embellish each frame of reference and more readily help us connect to our soul’s reality.
I will begin from a negative and tense frame of reference. I find myself thinking, I am always late. This day is ruined and I am so angry. While, thinking these thoughts my shoulders are tightening and my jaw is clenching. Furthermore, my nervous system is anxious and out of alignment. I might yell at my daughter about something insignificant or overreact if I drop my keys. I am unable to see myself in a larger frame of reference. My heart chakra feels restricted, might be tight or closing as I begin to rush. It would be hard to smile or laugh in this state. If I continue like this, by lunch, I may have a migraine or find myself crying.
In a moderate, more relaxed, frame of reference, I may find myself thinking, oh man, not again! I hope my daughter is not late for school. Do we have everything we need? I may drop my keys and swear out loud. My shoulders would tighten, but I would move them and relax them. I may still be able to laugh if something funny happens. More likely, I will be very serious about our walk to school and make little chit chat. My nervous system will be alert. Hence, I might not greet neighbors or be able to think beyond getting to the school entrance. My frame of reference is limited, yet flexible. My heart chakra will likely relax once my daughter is at school. I may be in a more joyful mood soon after dropping her off.
In a more expanded and joyful frame of reference, I might think, oops, better get out the door. This little cutie needs to make it to school on time. I may drop my keys and laugh. I might continue to think, there’s no use rushing now, we will make it to school when we do. We may walk hand in hand chatting at a moderate pace. I am able to ask my daughter about her dreams. Even ask, what she’s been doing in school and remind her about after school activities. My nervous system is relaxed, as is my body. I will greet neighbors and may note the birds flying overhead. I am relaxed enough to calmly wait as my daughter stops to adjust her shoe. My heart chakra feels good and full as I kiss my daughter goodbye. I am happy as I walk to work afterwards.
Could you feel in your body the difference between these three frames of reference? Was there a difference in the self-talk? In which one would your soul be more present? In conclusion, our frame of reference is ever changing. Created by our body and mind as the soul remains untouched. The more aware we become, the more we notice these subtle changes occurring. Ultimately, the more often we can stop and suspend the moment, the more readily we can choose the experience we want. And, come closer to touching our soul’s reality. With practice and attention, we can form our future and transmute our past. Creating a more joyful experience which is more connected with the truth of our soul.